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This resonates with me as well.. I’ve had to step back from politics a bit to stop from going down the panic rabbit hole. I too, am among those whose life will go on pretty much the same as usual regardless of who is elected. Our real, personal life among our family and friends will continue to sustain us on so many levels. Great post and a reminder to enjoy all that life has to offer. Campaigns are designed to divide. It doesn’t have to be that way.

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In the interest of bipartisanship, let me say that my personal life Kamalas the election.

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Haha. As someone who enjoys card games, I’ve been wondering what we’re going to do about the larger-than-life “Trump” that has trumped the old meaning of the word. How long before “trump,” the noun or verb, gets its innocent meaning back? (Case in point: The AI editor just capitalized the t that I wrote in lower case.) It’s an open question.

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Someone finally asked the question I've been noodling for a while. What a good word it used to be.

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I wonder if it's possible to hold a virtual card party on November 5, where we'll try alternative words for "trump." 🤔

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The bid in bridge in "no-trump."

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I’ll never hear a no-trump bid the same way again. 😅

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You could turn it around and say that politics is a "harassment" to one's persona life.

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A wonderful way to put things in perspective!! So many more personal things to fill our minds and souls and lives. Beautifully done. Thanks. (It helps that I live in Australia, but it is a good reminder for all that politics isn’t the Be-all and End-all.)

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good 🌹🌻🌸💐💚💛💜❤️🌼😍🥰

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The following comment may seem superficial, but I am deadly serious. “It takes all kinds to make a world.” I had to face this early in life. I am a passionate person, and my interests seemed to me the most important thing that could be imagined. However, no one in my family shared any of them to the degree they gripped me. I passed through anger and grief, but I began to reach a deeper wisdom by realizing around age 15 that my mother was a great woman in her own way, who did many things I could not begin to match.

Another way I think about this reality is through Chairman Mao's saying, “Let 100 flowers bloom.” Actually, Mao found it impossible to live by his own maxim. After a few months of hearing way too much criticism from suppressed Chinese intellectuals, he abruptly told them all to shut up, and they did. He never cycled back to an appreciation of diversity for the rest of his life.

David's choice to follow multiple interests and not simply focus on the election also reminds me of my belief that each one of us has an internal compass that will point us infallibly in the right direction if we are committed to heeding its guidance. This is somewhat caught in the Joseph Campbell's maxim, "Follow your bliss.” The only problem I have with this saying is that I have never found my inner calling blissful. I would more say, “Follow your necessity." However, I cannot reliably tell you how to distinguish the necessity that David and I feel from Hitler's necessity to kill all the Jews in the world.

Finally, Bruegel is one of my very favorite painters. He often painted large scenes in which something important is happening that is ignored by dozens of people in the painting. Two of these include Jesus carrying his cross, ignored by everyone around him, and Joseph and Mary arriving in Bethlehem, similarly ignored. This is a deeply profound theme — it is good to ponder how little of what is going on we are capable of noticing. That's why I am perpetually glad that God is so much smarter than I am.

https://uploads7.wikiart.org/images/pieter-bruegel-the-elder/christ-carrying-the-cross-1564.jpg

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I love that about Brueghel as well. Are theme on the Conversion of St. Paul.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Conversion_of_Paul_(Bruegel)

Thanks for the comment Kathleen.

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But what if you are the center of the universe; are God? Which is what several of the Eastern religions stipulate: that we are all in essence that of God.

Can God be smarter than God?

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If I'm the center of the universe and I'm God, God is pathetic. If I'm God and I can be knocked over by a wave, which has happened, you'd better start worshiping that wave.

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I love this post, David. I put everything I had into campaigning for HRC in 2016. I showed up like a champ, registering strangers, designing campaign buttons, giving them away to anyone who wanted them (on an international scale) asking only that people donate to voting rights organizations and supportive women's causes. I drove people to the polls all day on Election Day. I was so completely sure that she would win. Of course we all know the result. This time around, I'm still doing a lot of the same things, but my attachment is different. I know that the quality of my immediate life is what I care about most, and the lives of those closest to me. I have compassion for those who are not as fortunate or can't yet see how much they have. I can only make change on a one to one basis in my small corner of the country. And I will be okay regardless of the result. I know what my preference is, but the only thing that I can do is keep being me, with all of the goodness I can express. Life is a blessing. I'm clear about where I can influence change and what I have no control over. Just have to keep showing up.

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When Trump was elected in 2016, I went to bed for three days. Now, I look back at myself and cringe with embarrassment.

I knew Roe v Wade would soon be overturned, but I also knew that poor women in Red States hadn't been able to afford abortions for years - yet the Dems failed to make overturning the Hyde Amendment a priority.

Anyway, the other disasters the media was predicting after Trump's election never happened, and after 4 years of Biden/Harris (whom I voted for) I am looong over my Trump Derangment Syndrome.

What cured me? When Trump was in office, gas and groceries were more affordable; the wealth gap decreased for the first time in decades; we had far greater border security; Russian hadn't invaded Ukraine; Iran still had economic sanctions enforced against them and couldn't afford to fund their terrorist proxies; Iran had not attacked Israel through Hamas, Hezbollah, and the Houthis; and the Abraham Accords were signed, which was the biggest step toward Middle East peace since the Camp David Accords.

MAGA.

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I wish more people realized how those 4 years were and compare them to what we’ve been going through lately.

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Excellent list of 'cures'--thank you, Penny. I would also add, when T was in office I didn't have to pay $5.49 for a dozen eggs. (Seattle average today)

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Are you aware that politics have nothing to do with egg prices? Saying this kind of thing is very cringey.

https://www.usatoday.com/story/money/2024/09/25/egg-prices-bird-flu/75385643007/

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When Trump was in office the supply chain snarls hadn't yet ramped up consumer inflation to levels that are worse in every other country than the USA.

The wealth gap actually increased under Trump. And continues to increase under Biden/Harris.

When Trump was in office the flood of illegals dried up as soon as the pandemic hit, because unemployment skyrocketed to levels not seen since the Depression. They didn't take the risk of coming because there were simply no jobs.

Russian hadn't (yet) invaded Ukraine, because Putin could get almost anything he wanted re: Ukraine policy from his favorite Russophile FSB asset.

Hamas hadn't attacked like they did last year because Shin Bet and Mossad hadn't completed their transition from HUMINT to SIGINT (not Trump's fault, btw). The Abraham Accords and the moving of our embassy to Jerusalem gave the Gazans the impression that they were completely abandoned and had nothing to lose. That is was better to die fighting. And so they chose death.

America Already Is the Greatest Country on Earth.

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I was almost a little nervous to comment on here , until I saw your post, Penny. I never had TDS, but I hesitatingly voted for Trump in 2016. Everything you said is correct re his 4 years.

I am complete agreement with David’s post. I never put politics above anything else in my life. And I am not wealthy at all.

If I put life above politics I would be insulted by the posts who assume that Trump supporters have all of those traits and personality flaws. Because I put life above politics, I am not insulted in the least.

Life was safer and more prosperous under Trump, especially for the middle guy like me. And, as a Jew, if I did not understand that life is greater and more enduring than politics, I would actually be terrified if Harris wins.

However, as I said, I put life above politics.

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Okay but how do you get past the whole insurrection and continued lies about the election being stolen? If we can't even have trust in our election processes, what happens to our democracy?

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I'm sure everyone knows many people are deeply emotionally affected by the upcoming election, but I wanted to share an exchange I had with a particularly terrified person. I advised her to get a passport and think about moving to Canada, not because I think she will need to do so but it will make her feel better to know that she has an escape hatch.

DEB: I'm so petrified that I don't really know what to do any more. I don't have a passport, so now all of a sudden, I've decided that I need to get a passport, just in case. And, I'm trying to figure out if I'll still have access to what little money I have if I have to leave the country, or if the MAGA-opolis can take everything! I'm sorry I just really feel as if I'm looking into the abyss right now!😵‍💫

Kathleen: Deb, do get your passport but realize that you are a very small fish. There are hundreds of thousands ahead of you in line to be persecuted, if and when persecution begins. Fascist regimes have a pattern of picking out a few people for intense persecution, to scare the rest into silence. You aren't one of the big fish who will be chosen for the honor of persecution.

You will have access to your resources but be sure you know the details of how to access them. If worse comes to worse, you can drive to Canada which I'm sure will have hundreds of thousands of refugees from the United States if the persecution gets close to what you're worried about. Canada absorbed tens of thousands of young men fleeing the draft during the Vietnam era. 💙💙💙💙

Deb: Thank you, Kathleen. I appreciate your help. I didn’t sleep at all last night. I usually try to keep it to myself because I tend to overreact. But I just can’t believe there is a decent chance that the worst person on the planet could end up in the WH again. It’s living a nightmare!

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It might not be much better up here. We have a guy waiting in the wings who is kind of a JD wannabe. He glam up but before that, he looked like Milhouse from The Simpsons.

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Yes, I realize that one’s appearance has nothing to do with political platform but that glam up was (likely) part of trying to appeal to (younger) GenX, Millennials and GenZ.

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Dual U.S./Canadian citizen here, raised in New Hampshire and living in Toronto. The guy in the wings is bad news, but Canada doesn't have the American potential for toxicity.

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Do you mean our system of government doesn’t have that potential or the current leadership doesn’t?

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Canadians tend to have a different outlook--much less concerned about the government clamping down on individual liberties (e.g., the right to carry assault weapons) and more willing to pay with their tax dollars for other people's access to health care.

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Unless you’re Albertan. But even they aren’t going to have issues with free healthcare. They DO love their guns there though (but not as obsessed as Americans. I hope not, anyway). And I don’t think Crazy Alberta Lady’s policies would fly nationally. She’d also be too left wing for Marjorie Taylor Green. Kind of scary if you think about it that way.

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The fear and stress are real and it is good of you to acknowledge it and suggest ways of dealing with it.

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This election will be my wife's and my 47th anniversary!

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Then Mazel Tov, regardless.

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David, I aspire to your focus on living your life with conscience, purpose and pleasure, come what may on November 5. As William James said in 1890 or so, “Our greatest weapon against stress is the ability to choose one thought over another.” You seem to be better than I am at choosing the uplifting thought. If the Terrible Thing happens, there will be a barrage of terrible consequences as the plan unfolds. It will be hard to look away. Protecting our mental health will be a daily challenge for many of us, requiring not only tremendous discipline but a circle of support to keep (Auden again) the “affirming flame.”

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Yes, it is so important to acknowledge that there will be consequences of the results and that compassion means it doesn’t have to happen to you in order to care. We may have no choice but to accept a result of the election— but accepting the consequences of that result? No. It will take great resources, community and courage to live in that world and stay in personal balance.

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If the TT comes to pass, we can use Substack to maintain that balance without disengaging from the world. I don't have a plan for this and hope I won't need one. But the possibility gives me hope.

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My personal focus is aspirational as well. But it helped to think about past elections in context. And yes if bad things come to pass, we have a community here that can offer mutual support.

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Oh too ripe for comment but much to give rise to my writing today as I , female , one husband, 3 children, 5 grand and 5 sisters (all of us born:raised in the Hills of Beverly) wake to the most beautiful charlevoix mi harbor . I escaped BHills to nyc. Married on Contentment Darien Ct(grandparents home ) October 18. Short honeymoon. One night Maiden Arms and 2 in Montauk Inn. Mind you 1980 when life was gentler before the onslaught of extreme wealth. Despite my upbringing and comfortable life I feign those with obvious disposable income. We moved from westchester county to Cincinnati when my son and daughter were little. They’ve moved on . Both thank us for bringing them midwestern values. I grew the same . Perhaps I was always out of place in 90210. It has given me ripe fruit for stories. I applaud your efforts towards the less fortunate. There is something amusing about “sending out invitations.” Perfect for the Hamptons. I’m ready to fly but I ain’t got wings.

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I am married to the enemy still despite all the rage and sadness of 2016. I broke my leg very badly in December of 2016 and spent 3 months unable to walk, on drugs as it was an excruciating injury. We survived. Some parts of me feel as if I can’t be tolerant and yes, joyful but I can. We celebrate 20 years of marriage in Ireland this November no matter the result but if she doesn’t win…well, life and happiness will be compromised but survived.

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Your marriage has been battle tested so that's perhaps a silver lining. There are people who think the world will end if Harris wins. We live in a millenarian age.

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It depends upon your worldview; which is dependent on where you get your news.

The events of our time are being decided by the journalistic qualities--or lack thereof--in the Fourth Estate.

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Love this post and wish I could emulate your attitude, even just a little bit. I’m working on it. You have my permission to stop reading everything EXCEPT my election watch posts.

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Everything election-related, that is.

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That's a deal!

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I always loved that painting. It says a great deal. I don't even live in the US, but I hate the incessant emotion surrounding the US election. Yet I, too, continue to read about it. I will be glad when it is over. And yes, you will continue to read Nate Silver.

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Yes, Ann i undoubtedly will.

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Thoughtful writing

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Good on you, David—you’ve done what you can and can be at peace.

Despite enjoying a lot of privilege in various ways, my husband and I are maybe more exposed to the changes this election could bring than most, just by virtue of being a State Department family. But my attitude is similar to yours. All we can do is vote, donate, look out for ourselves and our loved ones, and hope for the best. We are the only ones who can tend to our little corner of the universe. (Yet I still pour over Nate Silver’s predictions, lol.)

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I feel for Nate Silver because people criticized him so much for saying Trump had a 25% chance of winning. One in four is two coin flips coming up heads. It happens!

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Yeah, he’s faced a lot of unfair criticism…a lot of people clearly need a remedial class in probability!

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